You create your own reality. Slap!!!! This statement will probably piss a few people off or cause them to defend their blame list, I’m used to this reaction so knock yourselves out. But, reality is that you’re responsible for everything in your life today – the good, the bad and the ugly.
When I first heard this about ten years or so ago, I had an argument for everything. At the time I was going through some pretty crappy experiences in my relationship and wondering if I’d totally screwed up in my choice of life partner yet again. Actually, there wasn’t much going right in my life at all if I had to be totally honest. You create your own reality I read – like hell I do I thought. Fast forward a decade and these words have become my truth. Cause and effect. For every action their is an equal and opposite reaction (Newton’s third Law of Motion). What I say, do and think really has created my life, and years of experimenting on myself and through watching others has proven this to me without a shadow of doubt.
Now I can tell you this and hope that you just take my word for it and start acting from the place where you know that you create your own reality. If you’re anything like me though, and most people, you’ll need to go out and do it the hard way by experiencing it first hand for yourself. The only real shortcut I can offer you is to consciously use yourself as a guinea pig. Test things out. Go back and look at past decisions you have made, choices you took and thoughts you dwelled upon. What happened as a result of them? If you hadn’t done what you did, how would things be different?
Here are a few common situations that arise where you could start experimenting by asking yourself questions:
- after conflict with another person – was it crucial that you be right, or did you just want to feel validated that the other person had really ‘heard’ what you were saying, if so, why?
- your financial position – what events occurred that created your current results(ie – job loss, relationship breakup, investment failures, poor spending and saving habits)?
- you’ve come home from the shops with another pair of shoes or an outfit that you didn’t need and you’re not really sure why you even bought it – what ‘feeling’ or ‘outcome’ were you hoping to get from buying it (ie – feel happy, sexy, confident or to impress the girls at work, to appear rich)
When you come up with answers to the questions, you are in a position to ask yourself how you got to that point. It’s kind of like peeling an onion, layer by layer, asking yourself new questions in response to each new answer. Like a dot to dot puzzle, you will find yourself making connections between events and circumstances and find that your current results are often the effect of things you could never has guessed.
These suggestions are just ideas of where to put your shovel in the ground and start digging. As you dig, you’ll find yourself making trenches in all sorts of weird and wonderful places. It’s all good. You create your own reality, so this means that anything you can change direction at any time and create something different! How empowering is that!!
Life is a game anyway, why not make it more fun by pushing your own boundaries and seeing what you could truly make if you came from a place of knowing that you create your own reality.
